"Mother's Day is for Eating!". That is what my little TJ answered, with a mouth full of pancake. Never mind he was eating MY special Mother's Day pancakes.
The morning started off great. I woke up to the sound of hubby busy in the kitchen, while holding a conversation with TJ. "Yes, TJ. I will come play with you. Just a minute." Heh, heh. Someone else is mommy this morning!
I was greeted with "Happy Mother's Day!" by my chorus of two. There was a vase of pink roses, a gift wrapped in blue with a white bow, and two cards waiting to be opened.
It appeared to be a Hallmark moment .... except:
LOL. I love my cutie pie. I love how honest he is. And more than anything, I love being the mommy that gets to hear all these surprising moments of honesty.After reading the Mother's Day card TJ gave me, I pointed to the image on the front of the cover. "Who is this kangaroo holding the baby kangaroo?", I asked him. "It's Daddy!" .. Awww, and I thought it was me!
As I took the wrapped gift in my hands from Hubby, TJ shouted, "No, Mommy it's mine! I want to open MY present!" .. Uh-oh ..
As Hubby poured homemade pancake batter made from scratch onto the hot pan, TJ sweetly requested, "Can I have a Pluto (shaped) pancake?" When the flapjacks were stacked up, there was Pluto and Mickey Mouse. It should've been no surprise then, that when I asked TJ, "What is Mother's Day About?", TJ answered joyously, "Mother's Day is for eating!"
I am learning a lot from TJ. Being honest in the moment. It got me thinking. You know, growing up, we lose that childlike honesty. We learn to wrap ourselves in protective, safe answers that please others, but are not our true voices. TJ has made me re-think my people pleasing tendencies and challenge myself to be real and more open with how I really feel about things.
I can see that nothing TJ could say or do would turn me away from him. So, I think maybe that would also be true for me. Friends and family who truly love me and care for me may not agree with what I think/feel. But, they will still love me.
Isn't amazing the lessons children teach us? ... I am very surprised at how much TJ is teaching me all the time. Just be being himself. I hope I can learn to do that more and more myself.
2 comments:
You know, I tend to be very honest, and I must say, there IS a price to pay when you choose honesty over people-pleasing. I am going through the opposite process than you: trying to teach myself to be less truthful and more diplomatic!
Vered - I guess we are both gonna meet in the middle .. ! ;) Cuz there is a price to pay for being a people pleaser too. The price of feeling guilty if others (you care about) are not happy with your choices or opinions.
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